S1E5: #1 Mindset Shift for Life and Money

When you commit and fully own this, everything dramatically changes! It’s been a pivotal game-changer for me in making more money.

Today I’m going to be sharing with you the number one mindset shift that completely transformed not only my life, but the amount of money I was bringing in and also my business.

The Victim Mentality

And that mindset shift before I share it will probably trigger the majority of you. The reason why I say that is because a lot of us fall into the victim mentality and the victim role without even consciously being aware of it.  It’s so easy to do to blame our circumstances or other people for the things that we have or don’t have in our life.

And if you can get out of your own way and truly grasp and be open and try and precise what I’m about to share with you, I guarantee your life and your business will completely shift and change.

The #1 Mindset Shift: Being 100% Accountable

The number one mindset shift that I’m going to be sharing is being 100% responsible for everything. That means being 100% accountable for everything that you have and don’t have in your life.

Another way to say this is everything is 100% your fault when you take full responsibility for your life. So that means that if you’re not making the kind of money that you want if you’re not charging the prices that you want if you’re not getting booked enough when you take 100% responsibility for that.

That means you can’t blame the economy, the recession, who our President is. You can’t blame Covid or even this season, or that you’re a new artist and haven’t built enough clientele. None of that matters when you take full accountability for your life.

So I’ll give you an example. The business that I had before I was tattooing, I owe the tanning studio, and our prices were about $45 for an airbrush custom spray tan.

And when I started my camouflage tattooing company, I was charging a minimum of $500. But it was very easy for me to send out quotes of thousands of dollars for people to get their stretch marks and scars camouflaged. When you think about that number, that’s a huge jump going from selling $45 tans to now $$500 to $1,000 services.

And when I would do my consultations for chemicals tattooing, I noticed that out of ten people that I would consult with, only one or two would actually land as a client. So I was quoting multiple people prices for my services.

It got to the point where I didn’t really enjoy doing consultations because I felt like you could only take so much rejection that eventually it’s just going to get to you and you’re not going to be very excited or inspired to do consultations because in your head you’re already assuming that they’re going to say no, that it’s too expensive.

So I could have easily fallen into the victim trap of blaming that the services that I was offering were too expensive, that no one was going to pay for those prices, that they didn’t see the value in it, or that I had to prove myself because I didn’t have an extensive portfolio, or that the prices needed to be lower.

But because I’ve taken ownership and have really owned and claimed being 100% responsible for everything in my life, I didn’t fall into that trap. Instead, I knew that the only way I was going to shift this was on me.

I realized that I had a weak point, which was I wasn’t comfortable doing high ticket sales. I had never done it before, and this was a new ball game for me.

Investing in Myself and Taking Action

So I knew that if I was going to make it in my business, I needed to invest in training. And I started researching sales training programs and fell upon Billy Gene, who I love at the time.

He had an extensive library of webinars and sales scripts and just a really great actionable and very practical mindset when it came to sales and sales psychology.

I signed up for one of his programs and immediately, I mean night and day shift. The minute I implemented a sales script, which I learned more about through this program, I was closing 40% of my leads, like literally night and day, just by making that one shift.

Now I’m at a point in my business where the average closing rate is 60%. So that means out of ten clients that I consult with, I have an average of being able to land six out of those ten clients. And the only reason I have a six-figure business is because I took full ownership of where I needed more growth.

And the majority of people facing that particular dilemma would have either lowered their price without really wanting to. So then they’re out of integrity within themselves, or they would have quit, or maybe even started another side hustle or learned how to do brows or lips because in their head they believe that no one really wants to pay to get their stretch marks and scars covered.

I would bet money that’s what most people do. And when you do that, that’s taking on the victim role, which essentially says you allow other people determine your worth, your value, or you let other circumstances determine your worth and value.

Maybe it’s not a person in your situation, maybe it’s society in general. Maybe it’s the economy because everyone’s losing their job or people are strapped for cash.

That’s still being a victim. Anytime you blame a circumstance for your situation, you’re playing into the victim mentality. And that’s a really hard pill for a lot of you to swallow.

When you take on the other role, which is more empowering I am responsible for everything I have or don’t have in my business. That means that only you can make the choices to either improve, grow your business or not.

And I’m telling you, the majority of you listening to this feel way more comfortable to blame external circumstances for the life that you have.

The Trickling Effect of This Accountability Mindset

But if you take on this mindset, it has a trickling effect because I don’t allow anyone to tell me what I can or cannot do in my business and or my life. But I also know with that comes the full responsibility that if I want anything, it’s going to be up to me to make it happen.

So now that I have built a six-figure business, my next goal is to build a seven-figure business. And I am not blaming society or the health of our economy right now because I’m not a victim to external circumstances.

I know that I’ve already proven to myself that I can build a six-figure business. And so that’s telling me that it’s 100% possible for me to build a seven-figure business.

When you begin to take full responsibility for your life, you grow and gain inner confidence and trust in yourself. At the end of the day, we’re all going to die and we all die alone. Even on your deathbed, being surrounded by the people that you love, you transition out of this life alone so you truly are responsible for your life.

No one else is going to do anything for you, nor is it their responsibility to create the life that you want because they should be responsible for creating their own life.

Questions to Ask Yourself

So have you been playing the victim card? And what would be a more empowering interpretation if you were to try on for size being 100% responsible for what was happening or is happening in your life? What would you need to do or invest in to change that? Who would you need to reach out to?

Those are the questions that I would begin to journal about. I would literally write down the top three things that you’re struggling with in life or in business.

And underneath those things, I would write down why you think it’s happening. Then draw a line right underneath that and begin to write what a person who was 100% responsible.

How would they explain these three challenges? And if they were 100% responsible, what would they need to do in order to shift these obstacles?

And then I would literally read back what you just wrote and choose which one serves you most. Because how you do one thing is how you do everything.

Mindset for Business, Mindset for Life

This mindset shift isn’t just for business, this is with everything in life.

This is why I’m so resilient – this is why I’m so confident. This is why I can stand alone in a room, comfortable in my own shoes is because taking the responsibility route is the harder thing to do, but the most empowering place to be.
Instead of playing victim in the victim role you are essentially powerless – I just truly don’t believe anyone is powerless.

What’s interesting is once you try this on for size and you begin to really believe and commit to this you’ll start seeing how many excuses people make for their life. And it’s not to judge them, it’s simply to just discern how rampant the victim mentality is because it’s so easy to blame others for what we don’t have.

This episode is a short one but a powerful one. I’m telling you, it’s been a game-changer in my life. It’s the only reason why I am where I am today.

Because if anyone could have played the victim role I definitely could have because of my past. But my past is so far removed in my past I literally can’t even relate to that girl anymore. This is because I have grown so much with this one shift in my life and that’s what I hope for you.

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